Love Messages – New York Times

A friend told me that he recently removed the email application from his phone. “I used to love my old days, go home and check email – there will be new messages!” It is RHAPSODIZED. Bang felt. There will be not only new messages, but often, in those early days of e -mail, the actual e -letters were from friends, and they launched with emotional life updates and unwanted accounts. Before text messages, the email was an effective way to communicate, and the way we communicated in sentences, vertebrae and ideas fully. We did not look at the future as “K” or emojis in the thumb was considered to communicate.

I am always excited when people tell me that they deleted an application: another small decrease in the amount of time they will spend on their phones. Live, perhaps, but move in the right direction. We are attached to these devices that have our attention, we restore a little control.

But I am especially interested in modifications that could restore some magic of communications before the phone, when writing the messages was not strange and the voice messages were miracles. I wrote about my country Nostalgia for phone booths, The recommendation is to borrow some of the parameters they presented and attend in this century (for example, which contains our private conversations to private spaces).

Even if we are nostalgic to the old days, it is difficult to restore old customs. Deleting e -mail from your phone may lead to your inception to check it all the time, but this does not mean that you will return to the home to the inbox filled with the disease from your friends. There are possibilities, it was your correspondence throughout the day, and your inbox is already full of unwanted messages and bills.

In an attempt to reduce my phone grip on my life, I suggested once for a friend that every time we wanted to send a text to each other, we send a postcard instead. I think we tried this for a week before admitting that it was an ineffective way to chat. I was familiar with the technical nature of the project to propose from the beginning and I did not get to know our experience to replace text messages, but I was hoping that the postcards would be very cheerful, at least we maintain a parallel stream for slow connection. It didn’t happen.

A few weeks ago, I made a phone call to a friend without warning, someone I never talked about on the phone before. I felt a little recklessness, a little rude, which made me want to do more, because it seems ridiculous that contacting someone should be controversial in any way. You should feel great that someone wants to hear your voice, and that they were thinking about you and wanting to call.

Although I have a few people who talk to them on the phone regularly, most of the people whom I consulted are watching a phone that is not intended to be hostile. They assume that there is an emergency if they receive a call from a person who does not have a regular phone relationship.

My recent sudden phone call was embarrassing, as I thought it might be. People are used to getting the frequency range to receive phone calls from anyone at any time, even without the caller identifier. This group of skills disappeared, and it may be replaced by the ability to address multiple collective texts at the same time. Now, even if he is a happy person with hearing, a sudden call is somewhat similar to someone who appears without being announced in the middle of the night.

There are a lot of ideas for how to break the addiction of the phone, but not on a lot of ideas on how to restore romance when I think it is a slow era, and the second half of the twentieth century when the phone and the phone were the mail was our main means of communication for long -distance. The pain when seeing an empty mailbox, in my memory, was more than a balanced euphoria in the message that recently arrived.

Not just a rational rhythm of correspondence that we miss now; It is the care and attention we have provided to her. We sat and wrote e -mail messages and messages. Perhaps we were cooking dinner or folding clothes while we talked on the phone, but we were literally on the call hook. Our communication requires communication and constant focus on the other person.

We can definitely re-establish this type of focus with some people-I have an intimate friend who hates text messages, and he will be happy if you take advantage of him in favor of phone calls-but it is very effective to completely abandon. The most perceived option is to try to bring the type of fixed presence and the full attention that I miss to personal conversations.

If technology is to mediate in the largest part of the telecommunications through technology, let us see how important we are to make our phones when we are already together. Turn off the alerts, extinguish the damned objects completely, and really be present there. We believe that we are developing the eye, in listening before formulating a response, in sitting together in silence. But like preparing for phones and connecting the entertainment voice mail, these skills are also atrophy.

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