China has millions of single men

Saying that Chinese women exceed their number will be low.

With 30 million amazing men more than women, one of the most populated countries in the world is a flood of unrelated males.

The possibilities are strongly stacked against them to find an appointment, not to mention a wife – something that many feel pressure on.

What is more than the clay is more difficult if you are of a lower social class, according to the Chinese dating coach Hao, who has more than 3000 customers.

“Most of them are from the working class – they are the least vulnerable to finding wives,” he says.

We see this directly in the documentary Violet du Feng, The Dating Game, where we watch Hao and three of its customers throughout the week -long dating camp.

All of them, including Hao, came from poor rural backgrounds, and they were part of the generation that grew up after the nineties in China, when many parents left their children with other family members, to go and work in cities.

This generation is now an adult, and it will go to the cities themselves to try to find a wife and enhance her position.

Du Feng, who is based in the United States, wants her movie to shed light on what life is for young generations in her country of origin.

“While the gender gap is very extreme, especially in China, it is about how the gap and the creation of dialogue,” I told BBC.

The three HAO customers – LI, 24, Wu, 27 and ZHou, 36 – are fighting in the wake of China’s one policy.

The government established it in 1980 when the population approached one billion people, the policy was presented amid fears that the presence of many people would affect the economic growth of the country.

but Traditional preference for male children led to Large numbers of girls are abandoned, put in the role of orphans, selective abortion of sex, or even female killing. The result is the huge gender imbalance today.

China is now very concerned about the decrease in the birth rate and the aging of the population to the point that it ended the policy in 2016, and bears regular success events.

Wu, Li and Zhou Hao want to help them find at least a friend.

He is a person who can aspire to be, after he has already succeeded in finding a wife, Wayne, and she is also a coach dating back.

Men allow Hao to give them makers and haircuts, while telling them questionable “techniques” to attract women – online and personally.

But while everyone tries their best, not everything goes to plan.

Hao builds an online image for every man, but it extends some borders in how he describes it, and Zhou believes it is “fake”.

“I feel guilty to deceive others,” he says.

Du Feng believes this is a wider problem.

“It is a unique Chinese story, but it is also a global story on how in this digital scene, we all face and wrestle with the price to be fake in the digital world, then the cost that we must pay to be authentic and honest.”

Hao might be one of the “most dating coaches” in China, but we see his wife questioning some of his methods.

Without deterrence, Proteges sends to the women’s interview, and spray the armpits with a deodorant, declares: “It is a shottime!”

Men have to deal with potential dates at a crowded night shopping center in Chungzheng, one of the largest cities in the world.

It is almost painful viewing because they ask women to link through the WeChat Correspondence application.

But he teaches them to dig their inner confidence, which, until now, has been hidden from view.

Dr. Cheng Mo, of the Department of Sociology at the National University of Singapore, tells the BBC how the pressure of marriage can affect single men.

“In China, marriage, or ability, financially and socially, it is still highly expected from men,” she says.

“As a result, it can be difficult to consider marriage, a social stigma, which indicates that it is unable and deserves the role, which leads to great pressure and mental strains.”

Zhou is desperate from the cost of appointments, including paying the price of fabrication, dinner and new clothes.

“I just get $ 600 (440 pounds) per month,” he says, noting that the date costs about $ 300.

“In the end, our fate is determined by society,” he says.

Du Feng explains: “This is a generation in which many of these excess men are defined as a failure because of their economic situation,” Du Feng explains.

“They are seen as the lower part of society and the working class, and therefore marriage in one way or another is another indication that it can succeed.”

We learn that a way for men in China “breaking the social class” is to join the army, and watch a large employment campaign that occurs in the movie.

The film significantly does not explore what life for gay men in China looks like.

Du Feng agrees that the Chines community is less acceptable to gay men, while Dr. Mu adds: “In China, it is largely governed.

“Therefore, men are expected to marry women to fulfill the standards … to support and develop the nuclear family to greater families by becoming fathers.”

Technology is also distinguished in the documentary, which explores the popularity of its growing virtual friends, saying that more than 10 million women in China play online dating games.

We even see a virtual friend at work – he understands, undoubtedly declining.

One of the women says realistic dating costs “time, money and emotional energy – it’s very stressful.”

“The apparent men are different – they have a great mood, they are only ideal.”

Dr. Mu believes that this trend “indicates social problems” in China, pointing to “long working hours, a culture of greedy work and the competitive environment, as well as the expectations of the firm sexes.”

“Virtual friends, who can act better with the expected ideals of women, may be a way to achieve their romantic imagination.”

“The thing that was mentioned globally is that women who have their assumptions friends felt that men in China were not emotionally stable.”

She digs her movie in the backgrounds of men, including their broken relationships often with their parents and families.

“These men come from this, and there is a lot of negative pressure on them – how can you expect them to be emotionally stable?”

Reuters mentioned last year “The long -term individual lifestyle has become more prevalent in China.”

“I am concerned about how we communicate with each other at the present time, especially the younger generation,” says Du Feng.

“Dating is just a device for us to talk about this. But I am really worried.

“My movie is about how to live in this unit epidemic, as we all try to find contacts with each other.”

So by the end of the documentary, which has many comic moments, we see that it was something of the realistic journey of self -discovery for all men, including hao.

“I think it’s a matter of warmth because they find each other, knowing that it is a mass crisis they face all, and how they still find hope,” says Du Feng.

“For them, it comes to finding themselves and finding someone to retreat their shoulders, saying:” I see you, and there is a way in which you can make it. “

Alan Hunter says of the daily screen The film “preserves the humanity that Du Ving finds in each of the individuals who get to know and understand a little better,” adding, “Ultimately, he revives the virtue to be honest with yourself.”

“Once you love yourself, it’s easier to make girls like,” Haw concludes.

Dating game in the cinemas in the UK chosen this fall.