‘As a man, what are my options?’: Tech worker fed up with ‘troubled’ marriage turns to Reddit for divorce advice

A 37-year-old tech professional sparked a lively discussion on Reddit after asking for advice about his intentions to divorce his 34-year-old wife. His post received a lot of attention, sparking a range of responses from users on the platform. While some offered practical steps to separate, others urged him to reconsider his decision.

The man explained in his post that there were no issues of physical abuse or financial instability in their marriage. Instead, he cited his wife’s “nervous behavior” as the main reason for his dissatisfaction, and described their relationship as “bumpy.” He shared details about their financial arrangements, stating that he covers the rent of INR 45,000 while his wife manages the salary of INR 8,000 for the cook and maid. Both partners reportedly hold similar positions in the tech industry and earn similar salaries.

The tech worker described a period in their relationship when things improved after several months of constant fighting. During this time, they agreed to what their partner wanted, resulting in a more peaceful atmosphere. However, tension arose when the tech worker’s parents came to visit.

The partner expressed discomfort with the tech worker’s parents being in their home and indicated that he would leave if the parents stayed. As a result, the tech worker’s parents chose to stay elsewhere, even though they had to travel a long distance to be in the city.

Feeling that the situation was disrespectful, the tech worker decided to invite their parents to stay for the final two days of their visit. This action caused the partner to act differently, becoming isolated and not communicating with anyone, suggesting that the conflict had reignited tensions in the relationship.

Among the responses, one user, who claims to be a lawyer, advised against litigation, noting that mediation and counseling can be more beneficial than a courtroom battle. They stressed the importance of understanding the specific legal implications of divorce, and urged men to consult a lawyer in person for personalized advice.

“Hi lawyer here. In cold marital disputes like this, counseling and mediated divorce is a much better option than fighting in court (it should be the last option). I can’t give you exact advice here because I don’t know,” the user said. A lot of detail is usually required to analyze a situation. You can contact me if you need a consultant.”

Another commenter warned him about the complexities of divorce proceedings, noting that the timeline could extend for years depending on whether the separation was mutual or contested. They highlighted potential legal costs and advised careful consideration before moving forward.

Other users offered practical advice, recommending that he document any evidence regarding his situation before making any decisions. They cautioned against starting a family under the current circumstances and suggested maintaining boundaries with in-laws.